A few days ago I was listening to an audio programme by Tony Robbins (self-help author and motivational speaker) called Lessons in Mastery and although I’ve listened to it before, I felt like it was the first time I had heard this particular message. It was about asking better questions in order to change your focus. This is so easy once you begin practising it; it’s all linked to positive thinking which I do try whenever I can anyway.
A situation where I had the opportunity to practise this was yesterday, when I got the whole family out of bed to take me to the train station (as it would mean that I could leave slightly later than getting the bus down there). Things were chaotic around the house as everyone was half asleep and I was so tired that I ended up tying a hair band in my daughter’s hair, got it caught and she ended up crying. To cut a long story short, I made it to the station with a few minutes to spare only to find that the train was cancelled and the next one (in 35 minutes) was showing as delayed.
I had the beginning of a headache and felt tired as it had been a long week; the station was packed and it didn’t look like I was going to get a seat. I thought back at the programme I had listened to and saw this situation as a test to check if I had listened properly.
I did started by thinking ‘Why was this train cancelled? Now I’m going to be late for work!’. I even said to someone next to me ‘I’ve rushed down here and got everyone out of bed!’. Then I stopped and thought about how wrong my focus was. I changed my question to: ‘How can I use this time? I wonder if could get a seat somewhere in the station’. And then as if by magic, a seat became available and I ran to sit down. Still feeling tired and a bit grumpy, I rephrased my question ‘How can I use this time to my benefit?’.
The answer was easy; for the first time this week I had brought my computer with me so that I could type up some notes on the train instead of catching up with sleep, so I got it out my bag and typed two blogs and edited another, all in half an hour (something that would normally have taken me so much longer) and whilst I was doing it, I forgot all about the delayed train. In fact when it arrived, I wished it had been delayed even more as I was in full swing.
As Tony Robbins says “Ask yourself better questions”. Try it – I believe that you can apply this to any situation.
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Wow, this is powerful advice. Our questions seem to dictate our perspective, and once that shifts, we are in a much better position to appreciate our lives as they unfold rather than wishing for something to be different. Thanks!
Thanks Sarah – I agree. Once you get into the habit of asking yourself questions, it’s quite insightful. Thanks for taking the time to comment.
Love your post!
It is important what questions we ask, it really shapes aor thinking and perspective.
I think questioning is essential, because this keeps us focused on the subject and if we master the technique of asking the right questions that will make a big difference.
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Wish you luck and happiness!