A few days ago I was listening to an audio programme by Tony Robbins (self-help author and motivational speaker) called Lessons in Mastery and although I’ve listened to it before, I felt like it was the first time I had heard this particular message. It was about asking better questions in order to change your focus. This is so easy once you begin practising it; it’s all linked to positive thinking which I do try whenever I can anyway.
A situation where I had the opportunity to practise this was yesterday, when I got the whole family out of bed to take me to the train station (as it would mean that I could leave slightly later than getting the bus down there). Things were chaotic around the house as everyone was half asleep and I was so tired that I ended up tying a hair band in my daughter’s hair, got it caught and she ended up crying. To cut a long story short, I made it to the station with a few minutes to spare only to find that the train was cancelled and the next one (in 35 minutes) was showing as delayed.
I had the beginning of a headache and felt tired as it had been a long week; the station was packed and it didn’t look like I was going to get a seat. I thought back at the programme I had listened to and saw this situation as a test to check if I had listened properly.
I did started by thinking ‘Why was this train cancelled? Now I’m going to be late for work!’. I even said to someone next to me ‘I’ve rushed down here and got everyone out of bed!’. Then I stopped and thought about how wrong my focus was. I changed my question to: ‘How can I use this time? I wonder if could get a seat somewhere in the station’. And then as if by magic, a seat became available and I ran to sit down. Still feeling tired and a bit grumpy, I rephrased my question ‘How can I use this time to my benefit?’.
The answer was easy; for the first time this week I had brought my computer with me so that I could type up some notes on the train instead of catching up with sleep, so I got it out my bag and typed two blogs and edited another, all in half an hour (something that would normally have taken me so much longer) and whilst I was doing it, I forgot all about the delayed train. In fact when it arrived, I wished it had been delayed even more as I was in full swing.
As Tony Robbins says “Ask yourself better questions”. Try it – I believe that you can apply this to any situation.
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