Having compassion for others

Posted on May 11, 2019 by

Should we always have compassion for others even when they get rude and frustrated with us? This goes for adults as well as children. They sometimes sound out without a care for anyone else… and we react.

I’ve learnt over the years that it’s best not to shout back but instead, calm the fire or disconnect the bomb. It’s not worth adding more fuel when the other person is on fire.

I’ve just walked out of the kitchen having been on the receiving end of my daughter’s anger and frustration with me…. over not much at all actually… I just made her the wrong sort of lunch. I sat on the sofa, sighed, and turned on a movie that had just started called Love Finds a Home. The following words touched me deeply and I just had to stop and write them down…

“Can’t we all get caught up in our own lives at times, and lose sight of the compassion we should have for others?”

It was like I was meant to hear those words.

So often we feel angry and frustrated with others; sometimes silently, by keeping the frustrations inside, and sometimes by losing our temper. It’s difficult to know what to do for the best in the heat of the moment, but after hearing those words above just now, I now know that I will try my hardest to have compassion for others. After all, how could we know what is going on in their heads, or their lives for that matter.

Until I write again…

Sandra

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How do you motivate yourself to tidy up?

Posted on May 6, 2019 by

At first I didn’t think that I would be able to relate to the title of this blog. After all, who could possibly need to be motivated to tidy up? I used to think that I would always feel like tidying up if I just had the time.

As the children are getting older I am finding myself with just a tiny bit more time on my hands, but this doesn’t appear to be enough to motivate me, because I see all the clutter as such a big job. Every room needs decluttering making it difficult to do a quick tidy up. Every corner; every drawer; every surface. I have to find a trigger to motivate me…

So, what did I do…

I didn’t wait for the right moment.

I didn’t say ‘I’m going to tidy up later’.

I just started decluttering, but I started small.

I set a timer for 2 minutes…. and something triggered inside me within that time, and i was motivated to come back and carry on for another short spell.

A 2-5 minute pick up, or clear up of your desk can really energise your home and clear your mind.

Look around you and pick some easy wins… bundle like things with like things. Put all books in a pile, or place all carrier bags in one bag. Throw all bits and bobs into an old shoe box for later sorting, if you really don’t know what to do with them.

Tiny steps is what it takes.

I’ve been doing this over the last week. With a few minutes to spare, I just pop into the spare room and take something out or put something in its place. It wasn’t noticeable at first, but this has spiralled over the week, to me spending quite a few hours on the space over the last couple of days. Later pictures to follow…

I’m now sitting down to write, because I all of a sudden I felt the urge to jot down my thoughts… to inspire others to just get started.

Until I write again…

Sandra

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What happened to me?

Posted on April 28, 2019 by

I’ve almost finished listing to Mel Robbin’s audio book ‘Take Control of your Life’ and one of the questions that she asks her clients to ask themselves is ‘What happened to me?’ instead of ‘What am I going to do?’ The former question resonated with me particularly in the clutter area of my life.

I used to (and think I still do) want a tidy, decluttered and clean house, but this question made me think that maybe I like talking about the clutter or doing the decluttering more than I actually want to finish it. It got me thinking… what if the thought of decluttering energises me more than sitting in a tidy and organised house with nothing left to do? This surely can’t be the case, because I’ve always wanted to live in a decluttered house; however, I have never totally got there, so how do I know how it feels? The clutter is alway there somewhere in other rooms. Am I keeping it there so that I have something to do?

This morning (just like yesterday) I got up early and started re-decluttering the surfaces and cupboards in the kitchen. Yet again, I moved things into the bin, by the front door to go to the recycling bins later, or to another room in the house, and the sentence ‘What happened to me?’ popped into my head again. I stopped to write, knowing that somehow by writing or researching I might get the answer.

Maybe my family are right, unelsss I throw it all away, I will never shift it all out of my life. The stuff in the garage, in the spare room, lurking in the cupboards… it’s all been there in some shape or form for many years waiting for the day that I do something permanent with it. I do have phases where I get a lot done, but then it piles up again.

I turned 50 a couple of weeks ago and it’s made me think a lot more about life and how long we all have to do the things we want to do. I’ve always envisaged living until I’m 100, so I’m not planning on going anywhere just yet; however, I don’t want to leave this world with a cluttered house. So, the question is, when in my plan will my house be the way I want it to be? What happened to the ‘me’ that wanted it so badly that I’d do anything?

I haven’t got all the answers today, so please watch out for further updates. I’m going to try my best to change the way I am. This won’t just be for me, but for my family who have been living with (and helping me contribute to) the clutter for years and listening to me saying that I am going to do something about it.

They would throw it all away if they had the chance, and maybe they’re onto something. It worked for a client that Mel Robbin’s was coaching in the book mentioned the beginning of this blog. When she questioned her client during coaching, and pushed her to move forward with her ‘stuff’, I reacted the same way that she did. It was like she was coaching me; however, her client eventually did something about it by facing her fears instead of turning away from them or hiding them somewhere.

Until I write again…

Sandra

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Waking up feeling energised

Posted on April 27, 2019 by

After a tiring day yesterday, I had a relaxing evening and then a perfect night’s sleep. I woke up thinking that it was a week day and had to go to work. When I realised that it was Saturday I put on my gym clothes and crept downstairs to do a 14 minute interval training program on the Bowflex Max Trainer machine.

Now, this machine sits near the TV and next to the conservatory. All the time I was exercising I was imagining how I could reorganise the furniture in the conservatory so that it looked more inviting from the lounge.

By the time it was 8.30am, I was eating my breakfast looking at the newly arranged conservatory feeling very pleased with my achievements and motivated to do further decluttering.

I have a good feeling about the rest of today, as I have since cleared the kitchen of clutter and am walking around the rest of the house with a bin bag!

Until next time…

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Exercising before cleaning

Posted on January 12, 2019 by

Christmas came and went, and my job before and after that seemed to take over my life in the evenings and weekends. So much so, that I’ve neglected the house. Today I am faced with 2-3 hours to myself (as the others are out having a family haircut) and I want (and desperately need) to tidy up.

I first put some washing on and then walked from room to room wondering where to actually start. Every room needed decluttering and cleaning, and Christmas decorations needed boxing up properly and putting in the loft.

Trouble is, I didn’t feel quite as motivated as I thought I would have done. I actually felt more like sitting down with a cup of tea and watching a rom com. Knowing that this was the only opportunity that I was going to get to make a dent in this massive task, I had to find a way of motivating myself.

Our new Max Trainer sprang to mind. I bought it for my partner for Christmas and so far we have only used it for a few minutes here and there to get used to it. I thought that if pushed myself to do the 14 minutes built in ‘Max Trainer’ interval training program, this might motivate me to spring into cleaning mode.

M5 Bowflex Max Trainer

…and it did! I actually managed to do the fast 25 second interval training every 90 seconds which wasn’t as bad as I thought and I’m feeling much more motivated.

And now I’ve treated myself to a 5 minute sit down to write this blog before I tackle the kitchen/dining room!

Until next time…

Sandra

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Take the true parts of criticism and work on that

Posted on November 15, 2018 by

When someone complains to you about something, for example, “I’ve only seen you for 10 minutes today because you were so busy doing other things…” don’t become defensive and come up with lots of reasons why they shouldn’t have felt like that. Also, don’t try and justify why it was so important that you had to do those ‘other things’.

Instead, say “Sorry, I’ll make the effort to spend more time with you tomorrow”.

Even though no one likes criticism, it’s good to break it down and understand why the other person has said it. Yes, some of the time it will be an exaggeration, and other times it could be ninety percent true. Whatever it is, try and bite your lip and respond in a positive and calm way.

People say things for a reason and it’s a good job they do otherwise you wouldn’t know what they were thinking and how they were feeling. Agree to the portion of the criticism that is true and work on that.

Look at it as an opportunity to work on yourself which in turn can help you grow as a person.

Until next time…

Sandra

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Emptying the dishwasher to the beat of the music

Posted on November 9, 2018 by

I got in from work this evening faced with kitchen duties and dinner. I asked Alexa to play some music and the first track was ‘Jump’ by The Pointer Sisters. I then poured a glass of wine and emptied the dishwasher to the beat of the music!

Happy weekend everyone!

Enjoy

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