Sometimes the best use of our time is doing nothing and sometimes we just need to get organised. Sometimes the former needs to be done before you are in the right fame of mind to do the latter. No one can tell you what the best thing is for you, you just need to work it out for yourself from how you are feeling.
Feeling out of control
I felt really stressed and overwhelmed a couple of days ago and I put it down to not being organised. Now, if you’ve been following my blogs you will know that I’ve been trying really hard to keep on top of the clutter and also the daily routines. However, being school half term, the routines have been different and I’ve missed my walks, visits to the gym and the odd hour to myself.
I could quite easily have fitted all of that in but for some reason I’ve been attending to everyone else’s needs and thought I’d be fine. But then it caught up with me and all I wanted to do was get everything around me sorted out and in its place. Everthing started to feel too much and I didn’t know where to start. You see, if I’m improving the space around me, it makes me feel better. When I’m doing other things, I feel behind.
When I get that feeling I wish I could separate out my stress from reality. I need to be able to flex what I’m doing. I need to be able to ask for what I want. I need to book time off for myself when I need it…
…. and that’s exactly what I did. I booked a couple of days off from work next week to get on top of things. These were the days that I’d cancelled last week because I thought that I didn’t need them. I should have trusted myself.
But before getting stuck into improving the way things are around the house, the girls and I stayed overnight at my mum and dad’s in Herne Bay and I recharged my batteries. We went for a lovely walk in the autumn sunshine and stopped at an ice cream parlour.
Last night my mum cooked us meat pie… yum. My brother and nephew came round and we watched an old funny video with all of us in it from 1990. We laughed so much and my girls said how different I was back then.
Over the last few days, I’ve learnt that I must…
… think more positively when things don’t go my way.
… learn to be more flexible with my time when things feel out of control.
… appreciate that others around me need my time as well, and by spending time with them, it might take my mind off everything else.
… take time out when I need it.
I’m home now and feel ready to tackle the house… after this blog has been posted of course, and I’ve had a cup of tea.
By the time I go back to work I just know that I’m going to feel more organised and in control again.
I would be interested to hear how you deal with overwhelming and out of control feelings when they creep up on you.
Until next time…