You may have heard the saying ‘learn to say no’ many times. If you are a people pleaser, you may feel guilty about saying no and be easily persuaded to say yes. However, this can result in you doing things you would prefer not to do with your precious time.
Learning to say ‘no’ takes practise, but have you ever thought of learning to say ‘yes’ first? In his book ‘Reinventing Yourself’ Steve Chandler explains that by saying yes to something you want to do first, you will then feel more confident saying no to something else. (Steve Chandler: American author, motivational speaker, coach and author of many inspiring books).
Filling your life with things you want to do sounds like fun, so why don’t we do it? I wouldn’t suggest filling your schedule every minute of every day, but at least have a think about what you want to do with your time and book these things into your life. Then at least when the next person asks you to run them an errand or join them for a drink, you can say ‘no thank you, I am spending the day with my children’. You’ve already committed to it, it’s important to you and nothing will stand in your way.
You will feel much better going about your day doing things you value or that are important to you. Try saying ‘yes’ today.
Until next time……