Now that my eldest teen has started tidying up more in the kitchen and dining room, I have to be careful what I leave lying around in case she moves it. I’ve always been in charge (control) of the clutter and mess so it’s been all too easy to let things stay where they were until I had time to move them. The only pressure I got was the pressure that I put on myself.
After dinner this evening my daughter got quite annoyed that no one cleared the table and put the plates in the dishwasher. After working all day and cooking dinner all I wanted to do was put my feet up; however, I felt that I owed it to her to help, so that she felt supported with her new process. She was happy and I was very grateful.
Is this new help going to help me (and everyone else) not leave things lying around? I hope so.
This is a strange place for me to be in, as I’ve always tried to do it all without asking for help. It’s certainly making me think twice now when I say to myself ‘I’ll just put that there,’ or ‘I’ll do that later’.
If this help continues consistently, I think we’ll all be in a better place before the end of lockdown and I’ll be able to move towards my goal a lot quicker. I just need to relinquish the control that I have over it all which is the hardest part for me to do.
I still wouldn’t feel comfortable with anyone touching or moving the stuff in the garage or spare room! That’s a whole other story.
One step at a time…